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When is the last time you were truly happy? Where’s your happy place?

If the late time you were truly happy was sometime within the last 7 days, consider yourself blessed. It’s actually not unusual for people in their 20s to be dealing with bouts of unhappiness that can lead to depression. As teenagers, we dream big things for our 20s. And then we start living in our 20s and those big things either don’t happen the way we thought or they aren’t happening at it.

It can fuck with your mindset.

I have gone through it myself and so have some of my close loved ones. I gave “advice” to someone bordering the line into depression; he liked it and thought it was good suggestions so I decided to share it with y’all.

Quick disclaimer (and I hate disclaimers): I am not a doctor. I haven’t extensively studied psychology or the human mind and how it works. These are only my suggestions. If you are going through depression or other mental health issues and “at home treatment” is just not helping, please seek professional help.

So here’s my suggestion:

It’s a three part plan: Mind, Body, and Soul

Let’s start with your soul—Get what you need spiritually. That can be going back to church, praying, reading your religious book of truth (which for me would be my Bible but I acknowledge and respect that everyone isn’t a Christian), meditating, or helping others through community service. It can also include other forms of expression like singing, listening to music, writing, dancing, drawing, and painting.

Now onto your body—Get active. Our bodies are really designed to be machines. Our bodies work better when we take time to exercise it and stretch. Even if you just give it 30minutes a day dancing around. Not only does it help your metabolism but also your immune system. Walking and just clearing your mind can do wonders too. Exercise also gets you away from concentrating on everything that’s wrong in your life and allows you to focus on physical activity. If you feel anger, unease, or other forms of tension, physical activity can drain you of that. In fact, I do some of my best cleaning when I’m angry. And one time, my ex called me and pissed me off so much; I turned on my Wii and boxed until I didn’t have the energy to be angry anymore. I pretended the person I was boxing was him and knocked him out for hours. I got a workout, slept good, and woke up sore as hell the next day.

Finally your mind—Do what makes you happy. Make a list of everything that makes you happy. It can be something small or something big. The list can be however short or long you want it to be. Then every day, do at least two things on that list. You have to do what makes you smile. You also need to identify the things you can control and the things you can’t. People bringing bullshit and drama into your personal space, you can’t control that. You can’t control what people do. What you can control is how you react to it. Don’t let people, who probably mean little to nothing to you, dictate your mood for the day or even an hour. Brush that shit off your shoulders and use your energy to change what you control.

It is absolutely okay not to be okay. We try so hard to be “fine” and “happy-go-lucky” for everyone else that we tend to forget that we don’t have to play pretend for ourselves. It is OKAY to NOT be OKAY. It’s even okay to throw yourself a pity party. But you cannot stay there. You have to move from that point. And to quote the show “Being Mary Jane”:  “Cry about it tonight, for in the morning, you gotta make it right.”

On my Instagram I posted a picture recently that said: “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise man grows it under his feet” (James Oppenheim)

Grow your garden of happiness. One seed at a time. 

Black History Wrap Up and other rambles…


Seriously, every day I poured Black History Facts all over my social media and the response was great.

People were learning and appreciated the process.

So THANK YOU for reading, liking, reposting, reblogging, telling others, and learning about the culture of the Black American!

I hope to make the Black History Facts posting a yearly thing.

SHOUT OUT to the new followers I gained throughout the month of February. I don’t take it lightly that you take time to stop and read what I have to say.

Enough with the sappy shit?…alright I’ll move on.

It’s MARCH!!! AAAhhh  wasn’t it just New Year’s?  I swear it was….welp, nothing has changed as far as the layout of this blog….still shooting for at least TWO posts a week. Still opening my social media to yall crazy folks:

Twitter: @iBiteTheniRawr

IG: @thisleobitesback (page is private BUT I usually accept everyone)

Until next time…be good or good at it…




Once a group of 50 people was attending a seminar.
Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity. He started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.

Now these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written, within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon.
Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it.
Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker began— exactly this is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.

Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness.
And this is the purpose of human life.


Love this

A thing happened on campus



So my name is Joey White and I’m a very pasty pale British white guy at uni overseas. So I was introducing myself and this guy from Nigeria goes “Hi, I’m Joseph” so I said, “I’m a Joseph too! Joseph White.” Then he looked me in the eye and said in a dead serious tone “I’m Joseph Brown” and we nearly died.

oh dear god

i actually lmao when i read this. cute.

Today’s Black History Fact

Kwanzaa is based on the year-end harvest festivals that have taken place throughout Africa for thousands of years. Kwanzaa is not a religious holiday, nor is it meant to replace Christmas. It was created by Dr. Maulana “Ron” Karenga in 1966. At this time of great social change for African Americans, Karenga sought to design a celebration that would honor the values of ancient African cultures and inspire African Americans who were working for progress. The name comes from the Swahili phrase that means “first fruits of the harvest.” Each of the seven days of Kwanzaa honors a different principle. 

Today’s Black History Fact

On June 19, 1865, the Union General Granger rode into Galveston, Texas, to tell  inhabitants of the Civil War’s end two months earlier. Two and a half years after Abraham Lincoln signed the Emancipation Proclamation, Granger’s General Order Number 3 finally freed the last 250,000 slaves whose bondage had been essentially unaffected by Lincoln’s efforts. June 19th, also known as “Juneteenth”, is celebrated in remembrance of this day and has become the African-American addendum to our national Independence Day, for the Emancipation Proclamation did not bring about emancipation, and the prevailing portrayal of Independence Day ignores the incidence of slavery entirely.

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